10 Laws of Manhood: My Take on True Manliness

(Philosocom's Masculinity Directory)

Hereby 10 insights/laws I have to offer about the notion of Manhood.

1. You don’t need to demonstrate what is already there. It’s not your problem that others don’t believe you’re a man, when you clearly are a man!

You don't need to prove your masculinity. It's not your problem if others don't believe you're a man, because you know that you are. You don't need validation for your manhood, therefore apathy about it, is strength, by sparing you limited time and concern.

2. You don’t need to give anyone an impression of what is already present and known (Not just your manhood). You don’t need to impress a lady when the lady already has a positive impression of you. The same applies to anything and to everyone else.

People will already have an impression of you based on their own experiences and biases. When they refuse to understand your words, then let your actions speak for themselves. Try to avoid people-pleasing, as that can be used against you.

3. There are no specific guidelines on how to be a man when the only way to be a man is to be male and to reach adulthood. Other "necessities" that are regarded as prerequisites, are product of delusion.

There is no one "right" way to be a man, given how diversely-individual we all are. What matters most is that you are true to yourself and to your plans.

4. You clearly don’t need to “be in touch with your feminine side” if you are convinced you don’t have one. You don’t have to “be more manly” if you’re convinced you’re manly enough.

Conversely, you don't need to conform to traditional gender roles if it doesn't serve your hopes and dreams. Plans, yet, require you to be considerate of others, or else they would turn on you either through impulsivity or through their own revolutionary potential.

5. You don’t need to be at the top of whatever societal power pyramid you’re in, in order to be masculine. Some common men, from construction workers to lumberjacks, can be more ironically considered more "masculine" than the man at the top. Soldiers going to war, can be deemed as more brave, than the politicians who sacrifice them.

Masculinity is not about your job or your social status. It's about being confident and comfortable in your own skin. Being true to yourself is a virtue, therefore "masculinity" is about having "masculine virtues" in your thoughts and conduct. The more universal a culture is, the more virtues are seen as masculine by most of this world.

6. Your girlfriend or wife is not a goddess, an angel or a nymph. Simping is basically people-pleasing, which can be regarded as a morally-depraved act, and therefore not virtuous. The attempt to portray women as divine creatures is a biased perspective. Look at them as humans instead, like any other human being. Look them in the eyes, and understand they are flawed as well as yourself.

You don't have to objectify human beings, nor put them on a pedestal, just because of gender/sex. Treat people with respect and dignity, regardless of mere demographics.

7. Once you are an adult and have finished all your mandatory tasks, the way you choose to live your life is entirely up to you. Even if you disappoint some of your closest people, your life from adulthood until death remains yours to lead and govern, whether you attain a powerbase, or decide to become a drag queen.

8. Being nice is not always helpful. Sometimes it can even do the opposite of what you expect. Do not be afraid to raise your voice and speak your mind when you are convinced you should. Adulthood is the end of the submissive obedience that you have been preached to follow during your school years.

9. If you don't know something and want to know it, and it's your right to know, ask! Even if others may be frustrated by your questioning, ask nonetheless, until you find a satisfying answer. We are born into this world ignorant, and we grow less ignorant as we learn. It is through knowledge that we can successfully stay true to ourselves, without the difficulties of failure.

10. You don't need a muscular physique in order to be manly. Your maturity, assertiveness, autonomy, and self-dignity are sufficient to make you "a masculine man", as opposed to a boy, who is likely to possess neither of these, but is extremely muscular. The path to "masculinity", necessary to be respected by many people, lies in virtue, not in bodybuilding.