How To Increase Love Using Justice

"Without justice and love, peace will always be a great illusion" -- Helder Camara

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How To Increase Love Using Justice

Do you think there is justice in love? If so, how come? We humans need to be loved by a minimum extent to survive. However, in a world where liberty trumps morality we sure don't deserve to be loved, by anyone, just because we're humans. External love, whether we get it or not, is beyond our control, and thus depends on the people in our lives, and on how they view us.

It also depends on their ability to fully accept us, for all our virtues and flaws. Those who need to protect themselves from our flaws, do not possess the strength for true love. The true lover is strong enough to refuse to escape their loved ones, through thick, through thin. As such, in a world that normalizes escapism, it normalizes, by proxy, the avoidance of love.

For the strongest way to love someone is to allow them be themselves, and allow them work towards their ideal selves. You can't expect justice in the form of having people being loved, when people are too cowardly to love, and prefer escapism instead, as a self-defense mechanism. The true lover on the other hand accepts their loved ones with no actual need to protect themselves.

If they truly love you back they won't abuse you intentionally, meaning that you further have no need to protect yourself from the same person who loves you back.

But as long as we will feel compelled to protect ourselves from further trauma and agony, we won't efficiently provide love to those who need it. And as established, humans need to be loved to survive.

Thus, there is no universal justice in love. Love require sacrifice. Such sacrifice includes your need to protect yourself with metaphorical walls. Give in to escapism, and you'll give in to not giving love to the person you want to truly love. To allow the expression of love, we must develop inner strength, one that can overcome many discomforts.

For love is for those strong enough to express and receive it. Choose to be weak, and you'll choose loneliness, for either them, yourself, or both. And it's through understanding, found in love, where we can reduce the contemporary loneliness pandemic. Refuse to be weak, and you'll allow yourself to love, more.

I also refuse to be weak so I would reduce people's loneliness. It's one of the reasons I am ruthless towards myself. Because love requires you to understand the pain of the other side as well as your own. Those who need the strength of others, need them not to be weak. I am therefore prepared. You can, too.

You can't force someone to love you when such emotion is non-existent in their hearts, just like you can't necessarily change someone's sexual orientation. It is spontaneous, and thus, unequal, because only certain people will trigger that emotion in other people's hearts, and vice versa.

Love hurts because this spontaneous triggering of unwanted emotions is unjust, but inevitable. In other words, only those who love you sincerely, will be there for you, regardless of what kind of emotions are being triggered. Those who will be there for you despite the pain, are those worthy to love you and vice versa.

Justice is as cold as it is rational. When someone you love suffers, you don't run away if you're in for justice. No. You help them confront their suffering. Reduction of pain, especially to those you love, is the just thing to do. And you can't do that if you're too weak to not accept pain as part of life. Accept pain, and you'll accept reality, for pain is an inevitable part of it.

Chen abandoned me not because she hated me, or because I did anything to her; it was because her emotion of love was never present, no matter how I tried to trigger it within her heart. Thus, when applied correctly, emotion is a powerful source for both love and justice.

And it is easier to apply emotion than logic to morality because emotion is more accessible than logic, which is to be taught. However, when you have knowledge of morality, which is linked to logic, you need not much emotion when you already know what's the right thing to do. Especially when someone dear to you is in pain. Emotional, or otherwise.

Depend too much on your emotions, and you might not relieve people of their pain. Succumb to your fears, instead of resisting them, and your loved one will suffer unnecessarily.

Love does not work fantastically because not everyone gets that so-called "happy ending," whether they end up married or not. Ultimately, it is the decision of momentary emotion, unless you integrate more values into your relationship. Values such as:

• Loyalty.

• Altruism.

• Serenity.

• Discretion/Secrecy.

No matter how much suffering you've gone through, you won't necessarily get your love based on emotion alone. Love requires more. Without values, it won't work in accordance to justice, as emotion alone is not enough for moral decision making. After all, emotions are prone to change. You'll sense a threat, you'll feel intimidated. You'll be mindful of your accomplishments, you will feel proud.

Justice is more strict. Through the application of justice we can be loved more, and we can love more, ourselves. And developing your own integrity, is attractive for a reason. It shows that you're honest with yourself. It shows that you deserve to be trusted. Combine morality with love, and you'll enhance it.

Develop your own sense of justice, and you can make people want to love you more. You don't deserve to be loved by default. You deserve to try to be worthy of love. Incels are wrong when thinking they deserve s**. No. You need to work on yourself to be loved. Not only or necessarily physically, but morally as well. Be a man or woman of your word. Don't break promises, don't escape when you're too uneasy and so on.

Nothing ensures anything for certain. However, you can work yourself to advance yourself in the world of love. Otherwise, feel free to delude yourself with other reasons, not necessarily linked with your loneliness.

For love does not come to us by mere attraction. Love is more intricate than attraction. Love is to be worked on, and invested in, for it to endure. Doing so indicates of how faithful you are, of how committed you are, to that someone. Fail to commit, and your love won't last as long as it would otherwise been. You need to show that you care as well. People want to know that they are cared. Showing that you do, has many benefits.

Justice is to be enforced. In law, and in other fields of human activity. Without enforcement, it won't be maintained. Fail to show your loved one your love, and they might feel like you don't love them.

Love is not just because the world of love is largely a competition. The justice that exists in competition is the freedom of choice. That freedom of choice exceeds your individual need to love and be loved. The choice of mutuality is not your own exclusively. You are not entitled to be loved by anyone. They are entitled to choose who they want in their lives.

And you don't even need to be despicable or truly evil to remain alone in life. Sometimes, all it takes is to be yourself, refuse to put on a social mask, and watch as the cowardly pick those who prefer to not be as honest as you are.

And perhaps, you should be loved for being honest, not for deceiving.

I refuse to simp just to gain the validation of another. If I'm going to be loved, I'll be loved for who I am, and for what I became. I will live, whether or not I am to be loved, whether or not I am loved as I'm renovating this article.