The Rubinshteinic Moralist Guide to Hospitality

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(September 2023 note: I am no longer handicapped. I explained why in this article).

Hospitality is a honorable tradition that can be found across the history of humanity, throughout the world. When you extend your hospitality to someone sincerely, you show your respect to them. A genuine host, therefore, cannot host without any respect to his or her guests.

I am not speaking of hotels, necessarily, and other businesses where you host people in exchange for monetary gain. After all, the monetary gain can easily overcome the aspect of honor in this exchange, when the sole interest of the business owner is to capitalize over the needs of strangers. Even so, competent serviceability is a worthy sign of respect, even in such cases.

As a moral being, hospitality is very important to me, whenever I do host someone in my hermitage. I feel compelled to give them the respect they deserve, and offer whatever I can, despite being an eccentric man. Of course, I do not exactly host anyone in my territory. For my territory is mine. It is I who decides who gets in and who gets out. Influence in my decisions is an irrelevant matter. For I know my actions have consequences.

And as such, I have the self-respect to not host those who have been awful to those who I value. I have no desire to shame others by respecting those who have been disgraceful to them.

I am a Heretic Master of Grace. It means I deeply question and oppose the perceived morality of society, in the name of grace. In the name of virtue, fairness, and honesty. I look at the morally depraved, and on those who justify their immorality, and I feel shame.

I feel pity. I feel disgrace, sorrow, and humiliation. I feel shame, for I refuse to be like them. For I want to be a better human being. A better man, and being a better host, are certainly features in my noble ambition to become more moral than much of humanity.

And I am merely a "master" because it is a skill I hone and strive to hone indefinitely. As all masters deserve to do.

No, I am no saint. But being imperfect is a poor excuse to not work towards improvement. See the Nirvana Fallacy, I wrote about.

It is unwise to regard morality as a purely subjective notion. Because when we need to survive, and when we need to rely on others for survival and prosperity, we must attribute some degree of objective importance to morality. Because the more we shame and disrespect others, the harder we can damage our own survival and cooperation with other human beings.

It is, therefore, our interest, to work and become more moral beings. It means that, when we host people, we should not only respect them, but also those whom they are associated with, and their relations with those who are dear to us.

Why? Because hospitality is also a political notion, and not only moral or financial, necessarily. It is like a move you can make in a chess board. You can earn something out of it, just like you can lose something, in return.

Evaluate your actions wisely, if you do not want to cause more harm than good. Ask yourself if doing a certain action is worth the cost it may bring. Be wise. Don't be naive. Don't be innocent, like a Tom. And don't you dare use innocence as an excuse for a poor mistake.

Do not justify your mistakes. Just reduce their probability, instead, moving forward. It is but part of being a grown adult, correct?

That is one of the many reasons I am a Tomasio. Those who use innocence and ignorance as an excuse to abuse and/or humiliate me deserve no place in my life. I will not allow anyone to stand in my way. I have been traumatized enough by the ignorant deeds of fools who justify their own actions with whataboutism, a very infantile logical fallacy often used by kindergarteners and even high school students.

"But you did things too!" others may claim. How foolish. The difference between me and them is that I strive to improve and rectify my mistakes. They do not necessarily do the same. Those who refuse to improve, because others deserve to improve as well, are beneath my Rubinshteinic morality.

Nevertheless, I believe that vengeance has its place in morality. Some people are too foolish to realize the faults of their errors until they are shown them. Vengeance can be used to teach these people the lessons they deserve, so that they do not spread their depravity to an already depraved world.

Unfortunately, it is easy to underestimate many people, as they lack the ability or will to question their own mockery and other disgraceful behavior.

Part of the philosopher's job description is to show people the error of their ways. Vengeance is just one of the tools that can be used for this purpose.

I will never host those who are dishonorable or impulsive, with little to no shame to either. Morality is first and foremost a restraint. Those who have been harmful to me or to those I hold dear will never set foot in my territory. My territory does not deserve to be tainted by their immoral presence.

Chen will never be allowed in any physical property that I may own. She is the one who treated me with such poor taste. The same goes for anyone who has laid a hand on me or threatened me. If you are valuable to me as a person, and someone who has done similar things wants to be on my property, they will be shown the door.

It is my right to host whoever I want. It also means that I have the right to act disgracefully. Because in a morally depraved society, you are allowed to be morally depraved yourself. All because it is accepted.

However, unlike many people, I refuse to be disgraceful. I will not use my rights as an excuse. In this article's regard, that includes my own mother. Anyone who either harmed her or will harm her in the future, will not taint my ground.

I do not care that the world is unjust and disgraceful. I do not care that society normalizes injustice, disgrace, mockery and ungratefulness. None! None of those mean that I should be one as well.

Should I act as expected in a Kakistocracy, I will only contribute to its shameful normalization of unnecessary suffering. And I refuse to become a Kakistocrat, to those whom I will hire. I refuse to be an abusive boss.

By visiting this site, dear readers, you are my guests. Please treat this space with the same respect that I do, just as if it were a physical one. This is a public space, but it belongs to me and me alone. After my death, it will belong to my successor, whoever they may be.

Thank you for reading.

And, for most often then not, there is no humor inside me.